I don’t want absolute control; I don’t want you to be absolutely mine; I must let you be. The measure you are not mine is the measure you are alive and real. I must erase these ideas from my ideas of desire. You are not mine, but I would like you to be mine on your own accord. I do not need you and I must be compassionate, forgiving, and exciting. I must not be sad if you do not come to me because it is the sign that you are finally your own person and being. I desire to give you pleasure, so I forfeit control and power, to throw control and power to you, and to see if you will return them. I must remember this is the purpose of all this. I must transcend my ego. It is surrender and acceptance of the other, whatever may happen.